It is common to bleed during sex

September 15, 2010 - Sex during pregnancy - What is fun and does not hurt is allowed


In the past, warnings were given against sex during pregnancy because love games could harm the unborn in other circumstances. Today nothing stands in the way of the lust of lovers. In principle, anything that is fun for the expectant parents is allowed, as long as the pregnancy goes smoothly. The concern that the act of love could promote a miscarriage or premature birth is largely unfounded, unless the gynecologist advises in justified cases to be considerate and sometimes abstinence.


If the baby is well protected, nothing will happen to them

Protected in the amniotic sac and surrounded by amniotic fluid, nothing can happen to the baby during lovemaking. It will not be crushed, touched, or hurt. Even with vibrations from sexual intercourse and orgasm, it apparently rocks back and forth unimpressed. It is true that nothing can be said about whether the baby feels anything when the mother's belly becomes hard during climax and the uterus pulsates. Only when the time for childbirth is ripe or has already passed can sex become a natural obstetrician, as the prostaglandins in the sperm promote labor. They widen the slightly open cervix and make it softer and more pliable.


It's all about lust

At the beginning of pregnancy, when nausea and fatigue or the sensitivity to touch of the breasts impair well-being, displeasure can often creep in. In order not to scare off the partner and to clear up the misunderstanding early on that there is competition between father and baby, conversations, loving cuddling and cuddling are the most important ways of sharing the joy of the offspring. In the second trimester of pregnancy at the latest, a pleasure-oriented period begins for the majority of expectant mothers. They are mostly doing well all around and because of the hormone release and the associated increased blood flow to the genital area, new erotic sensations open up because the abdominal circumference does not yet bother them. The hormones spread happiness and serenity, so that even the parents-to-be can increase their willingness to experiment during sex and the carelessness of not using contraception does the rest. 70-80% of the couples surveyed in a field study stated frankly that their sex changed during pregnancy, and for the better. The rosy blood supply to the skin and fuller breasts, the general increase in female curves increase the desire in many expectant fathers, while others treat their pregnant partner like a raw egg. It is not uncommon for them to feel insecure or set back and thus inhibited in their sexuality. An open conversation between the couple and the gynecologist can remove doubts and fears and thus lend new accents to love. In addition, the harmony of the parents and the wellbeing of the expectant mother are transferred to the unborn child.


When is traffic wrong?

Care should be taken if the existing pregnancy was preceded by miscarriages. This also applies to sexual activities in the first three to four months, sometimes not having normal sexual intercourse for a while. Between the 14th and 20th week of pregnancy, examinations as part of preventive care show whether the child's development is satisfactory and whether, on the advice of the gynecologist, the reluctance to have sex can slowly be abandoned. However, if you have the following pregnancy problems, sexual intercourse should be avoided in order to maintain the pregnancy as long as possible:
- bleeding
- Premature labor
- loss of amniotic fluid
- Placenta previa or placental insufficiency
- Presence of a Zerklage
We speak of placental insufficiency when its functionality is restricted. The exchange of substances between mother and child is impaired and this can lead to insufficient supply. If the placenta lies in front of the cervix, it is called placenta previa and this assumes that the pregnancy must be monitored particularly carefully in any case. Nevertheless, in most cases this goes without any problems, but the child has to be delivered by caesarean section. It happens that pregnant women have such weak connective tissue that the cervix opens too early and thus threatens premature birth. This cervical insufficiency requires sealing with a tape. However, this is only possible if you have not yet started labor and the amniotic sac is intact. The procedure can be performed from the 15th week of pregnancy. By the way: Sometimes there is slight bleeding in the vaginal mucus after sex. This comes from the cervix, which reacts to the touch because of the increased blood flow. We are talking about contact bleeding, but this need not be a cause for concern.


Hygiene should be a matter of course

Proper intimate hygiene is essential during pregnancy to prevent fungi and bacteria from settling in the first place. It is advisable to use only clear water to clean the labia and the vaginal entrance in order to maintain the necessary protective acid mantle in the genital area and thus to allow germs as little attack surface as possible. Any exaggeration is not advisable. Too frequent washing can negatively affect the protective acid mantle as well as poor care. The expectant father also has to pay attention to hygiene measures to protect against infection. He should cleanse the penis with soap daily while pulling back the foreskin.


Which sex positions are recommended in the last few weeks?

The position in the side spoon position is advisable because the penis does not penetrate too deeply. When the pregnant woman lies up, there is no weight on her stomach and she controls the depth of penetration. The attempt in the sitting position is also recommended, as there is no weight pressing on the uterus. The pregnant woman sits on her partner's lap while he takes a seat on a sturdy chair. However, it is important to give space to the joy of experimentation and to find possibilities that please and satisfy both partners.


The gynecologists of the professional association of gynecologists advise pregnant women and their partners on all questions relating to sexuality during pregnancy.


Maria-E. Long-serious